If you’re like me and you have young kids you think of their future often. You think about how to raise them and what can you do to ensure that they are good kids, make wise decisions and lead rather than follow the pack. About the role I can play in helping them have great self esteem, love God and basically become successful (however you define that) women. (unless you have little boys, of course)
So, lately I’ve been having some conversations with good friends who have young kids and we’ve been disagreeing on the importance of self expression. How far do you let your kids go with this? What is OK to let them do and what do you shut down? (See above pic) Here is an example. I can remember wearing camo fatigues to church on Christmas morning in the 6th grade. (This was NOT cool where I went to church) I had a 6 inch long rat tail in 1983 and was the first to wear parachute pants the same year. However, I didn’t even have to ask about the earring that I wanted to get because I was convinced and believed that my Dad REALLY would have ripped it out of my ear. So there were indeed boundaries. I couldn’t explain them to you. . .but I knew them.
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And that statement —I couldn’t explain them to you. . .but I knew them– brings us to this conversation. I’m having trouble putting this into words but isn’t there an obvious limit to “self expression”? (See above pic) I mean when I grew up I read “Dress for Success”. It basically was a guide for what clothing would assist you in your journey towards success. I listened to sales tapes by Tom Hopkins that said if you wanted to be successful at sales then you couldn’t have any facial hair. Of course, times have changed. I mean I’m an EVP at a fairly good size company and I wear jeans and flip flops most days. However, if I’m meeting with a client that dresses nicer than that, I would certainly dress appropriate to their standards.
I just feel like more and more parents are afraid of stifling their kids self expression and I’m often baffled by it. Where does it stop? (See above pic) I mean, how refreshing is it to meet a kid who will look you in the eye and shake your hand with a firm grip and speak in an audible voice. I see high school graduates who work minimum wage jobs, have 5 piercings on their face and who knows where else, can’t keep their pants pulled up and speak very few intelligible words. They’re really nice kids but wonder why they don’t make more money? Well, at least they’re getting to express themselves.
Look around you. . . Would you not agree that people you consider successful in life (once again, however you define it) have some similar character traits? Maybe, as they grew up they took fewer liberties with their “self expression”?
Alright. . . I told you I was having trouble putting it into words. I’m officially old. I’m going to take my Metamucil and go lie on my heating pad.
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Goodnight.